You might have noticed that the frequency of writing for this blog has gone down. That’s because I am now working at the Phoenix Counseling Collective, and I’ve been working on their blog. I haven’t written any solos yet, (those are coming soon) but together, we have written blogs about
I love the show This is Us. It's such an experience for me. I get into my comfy clothes, snuggle up on the couch with my husband, and (pending technology's cooperation) we watch and laugh and mostly cry. In one of the last episodes of this past season, there was a moment when I thought, "The writers of this show HAVE to be therapists."
I truly hope that you are having a lovely Christmas season.
But sometimes, Christmas is just sad. Whether it be broken relationships, loved ones that you wish were still here, broken dreams, single-ness, or broken families, sometimes this time of year is just really hard.
More and more I'm hearing that people aren't sleeping well. Clients, friends, and family are all having trouble.
When you don't get good sleep it makes you grumpy, it compromises your immune system, it makes you gain weight, it inhibits you from effectively managing your emotions, and it negatively impacts your relationships.
My colleague, Rachelle, wants to invest in your marriage AND your big day. She feels so strongly about it that she is doing a FREE 5-day workshop for you. I do hope that you'll take her up on this opportunity.
There is a beauty that has been lost in our culture today. The beauty of small town friends who grow into loving each other is much rarer than in days past. We have gained the endless options of mates to be found on match.com, eharmony, bumble, tinder, christian mingle. This makes us think that somehow, people are better. There has to be a better option.
Women (and men) often find themselves being violated. They set up boundaries and other people don't respect those boundaries. Violating another human being in a sexually aggressive way is absolutely unjustifiable. Manipulating another person for one's own sexual gratification is absolutely wrong. But, for some reason, it continues to happen.
I hear this all the time. "I am so over the dating scene. I'm taking a break from dating!"
Then, a week later, you're back on Eharmony, Christian Mingle, Match, Plenty of Fish, or whatever Christian dating site you're currently using. It's like an addiction. It may make you feel better that you're taking yourself out of the game for a minute or two. If you need a breather, that's fine! But if you want to have a little more purpose with your break, keep reading.
I'm not going to give you some cliché answer that your friend might give you post-break-up. I won't say that he wasn't good enough for you, or he sucks or he doesn't even know what he's walking away from. Those are fine things for your friend to say if they are true. It's awesome to have great friends who give you encouragement in that crappy moment.
But, I'm not your friend so I'm going to give you something better. A takeaway for your next relationship to end differently- or not at all.
Spoiler Alert: This blog contains references to the most recent release of GG- A year in the life.
I've been a Gilmore Girls fan forever. It's only natural I should kick off my blog with these ladies.
In "A year in the Life" Rory was not living the life that she knew she should. She couldn't remember to break up with Pete, or Paul, or whatever that guy's name was. She barely remembered she was dating him. She was cheating on him. She treated him awfully. And that's not Rory. It wasn't who she wanted to be and it wasn't right.
There are ways to date well and ways to really screw it up.